Q: So my question is how did you get involved in the life style? How do you find your mates? My wife and I have talked about hiring a professional. do you have any experience with that type of situation? And what are your thoughts? Your input is greatly appreciated thank you, I love your blog, and as always great blog keep up the good work! . A: I was a super good girl growing up. I never really was able to experience all the fun thatâs involved with dating when I was younger. I met someone right when I got to college and was with him the whole time until we broke up then immediately dated my husband. . On our 10 yr anniversary trip, my husband asked me about my fantasies. I told him I didnât have any. A few days later I finally got the nerve to tell him - I wanted to go out on dates and have more sexual partners (only had 3, including him). My best friend was just divorced, slutting around the town and I was really jealous. I wanted to experience what I missed out on. He luckily said, âhell yeah, that sounds hot and Iâd like to watch that!!â My only requirement is that I have to video any âfunâ for him. . Something like this is always evolving. At first, only I played but now we both play - together and separate. Itâs awesome allowing your best friend/spouse to fulfill fantasies!!! . In regards to where to find playmates, I would absolutely stay away from âprofessionalâ paid prostitutes. There are plenty of people in the lifestyle that can please you, teach you and advise you. Go to your local swinger club and sign up on Swinglifestyle com and SDC com. There are also a ton of great articles on SLS and SDC. . We have zero regrets! It has allowed us to fulfill each otherâs fantasies and bring us closer together mentally and physically. . Good luck! đ Read more